Sober Living
By John Jablonski
Sober living is, quite simply, a choice to live free from addictions. However,
the reasons that a person chooses sober living are far from simple.
Everyone has their own different experiences that have led them to decide that is the way forward for them. It is important for a person to have their own reasons for seeking sober living, and not to be forced into it by others.Many people have reached a stage in their life where their lifestyle is seen as the only way to turn their life around. It is a sad fact that addictions to drugs, alcohol, or even gambling can destroy a person's life and affect everyone around them. Being determined to change to a happier living lifestyle may not repair all of the damage that their addictions have caused to others, but it will definitely eliminate the consequences of continuing addiction.
Support from those around you is essential for continued and successful sober living. Often, the best people to seek support from are those that have been through similar situations. This is not always the case, but understanding of the true meaning of sober living by anyone that you come into contact with is often necessary to help prevent a relapse into the life that you lead before you chose to live alcohol free. This does not necessary ensure that the person is the best source of support, but it does remove a lot of the pressure about explaining what real living is, and why you have chosen such a path.
Sober living should not be seen as simply giving up addictions. Of course, that is the main starting point and continued focus of true sober living, but the focus should be more on how life can be changed for the better by sober living. If a person remains in contact with friends and family that knew them before their sober living began there are often a large number of barriers to be broken down. No one can be expected to change completely overnight, but with concerted effort and determination, the change to sober living can be truly successful and literally life changing.
There are many organizations that can help a person to achieve sober living. Many of these offer counselling sessions and a buddy system to provide support and advice to anyone who has, or is considering choosing sober living. There are also a growing number of residential places in sober living homes. These range in their entry requirements and fees, but all provide a safe and supportive environment for people to start out on the road to living without booze or drugs. Here is one word of caution to anyone wanting to start a new relationship at the same time as beginning their new sober living lifestyle. Don't! The pressure of trying to change old habits may be overwhelmed by those of the relationship. Of course, this does not mean that you cannot seek new friends; just don't be too keen to form a deep relationship too soon during this vulnerable time.
About the author:John Jablonski is the owner of several successful online dating websites and was of the first to have a dating website for sober singles. Place your own free profile at our Sober Living Personals dating website.
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2 responses so far ↓
1 Patrick // Jan 17, 2008 at
I would agree with the statement that "the reasons that a person chooses sober living are far from simple."
We addicts and alcoholics in recovery have a tendency to want to simplify the recovery process. We want to say that it is simple. We want to break it all down and make it all simple in order to wrap our minds around it.
But it is not simple. Addiction is a complicated mess. Therefore, the solution (recovery) and the motivation for it is necessarily complicated as well.
2 Francesca // Aug 15, 2008 at
My husband is a recovering addict (long story). He has been lying to me for at least 2.5 years of our marriage. We have only been together 5 years. We have a beautiful daughter (3). He has been making some progress. But now it seems there is no trust on my part. I understand that it's the disease and not my husband. I have been so hurt and betrayed, I feel it is too late. This may not be anything that you can help me with. I guess I just wanted to understand how recovery has been for you and your family or those around you.
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