Is The Internet A Miracle Cure For Loneliness?

July 20th, 2008 · 7 Comments

By Royane Real

A few years ago a surprising survey discovered that people who spent a lot of time on the Internet were a lot lonelier than people who didnt spend much time on the Net.

This was an unexpected find because many people view the Internet and e-mail as a great way to make and keep connections with other people. So what is the truth? Does spending time on the Internet actually make people more lonely? Or did this study simply show that people who are already lonely spend a lot of time on the Net?

As happens so often, the technology itself is neutral; whether it is good or bad depends on how the technology is used. The day can fly by very quickly when you spend time on the Internet, whether you are looking for information, or visiting a chat room. Using the Internet, you can easily find people who share the same obscure interests you may have, such as raising Abyssinian cats, or studying Florentine tapestries. Through the Internet you can find another person who is struggling with an illness or problem similar to yours, and who understands exactly what you are going through.

The vastness and the speed of the Internet means you can hook up instantly with people on the other side of the world and have lengthy conversations with them about intimate matters you have never discussed with anyone else. The anonymity of the Internet can be a double-edged sword. You can feel safe revealing your innermost self to a total stranger because he lives five thousand miles away and you will probably never meet him. You might believe you can tell him your innermost thoughts, even those you cant tell your husband. You may feel encouraged and supported by a person you have met on-line in a way that you dont believe you are supported by any of the people in your everyday life. Your Internet friends may find it easy to offer you support and encouragement because they will never have to back up their typed words with any real action or commitment.

Talk is cheap, and supportive talk on the Internet may or may not be sincerely offered. Its true that some relationships that start off on the Internet will develop into long term on-line friendships that last decades, even if the two correspondents never meet in person. And in some cases these on-line relationships will also successfully transform into friendships in the off-line world. But the kind of interaction you get on the Internet lacks some of the most important aspects of a friendship–the interaction with a real live human person. You dont get to experience a friends face light up with a smile because he is happy to see you. You dont get to take part in shared activities, and develop a history together. You dont have someone put their hand on yours as you exchange confidences. You dont even know that your Internet friend is really who he claims he is! You dont know beyond a shadow of a doubt that anything your on-line friend says about himself is true.

Although the Internet is a unique and useful means of communication between people, dont use it as a complete substitute for live social contact. Balance your on-line activities with activities that involve meeting and interacting with real live people in your local community. Dont use the availability and ease of Internet relationships as an excuse to avoid some of the more difficult, yet ultimately more rewarding work of developing relationships with the people you already have around you.

About the Author : This article is taken from the new book by Royane Real titled “How You Can Have All the Friends You Want - Your Complete Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends, and Keeping Friends” If you want to improve your friendships and social life, download it today at www.royanereal.com

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7 responses so far ↓

1 JamAce // Sep 2, 2008 at

Well, for one thing, Most people needs someone to talk to and share things with, fortunate to those people with someone who he/she can interact with personally, but for some, internet would be one resort as an outlet. And so to say, a help for those socially troubled people. And to add up, too much net does cuts some of your ties with your social life. Thanks for sharing this.
2 molly00000 // Sep 2, 2008 at

I think internet has proved to be a boon for those who have to spend most of time in solitude. When i am alone at home, i cant think of surviving without internet. It not only makes it easy to communicate with others but you can also find other topics of interest which can help to increase your skills. Almost every profession needs it and you can remain attuned with the help of internet.
3 crimson // Sep 24, 2008 at

It really depends on the person who are using the internet. If you are into it that your forget about your family, friends and love ones, this is not a cure for loneliness it is a sign of addictiveness. You can not live in the cyber world. I was once like this because I was an addict for online games before so in turn I left my social life. I broke up with my girlfriend and I lost my friends. Live in the real world not in the cyber world that’s what I say.
4 cogbuddy // Oct 3, 2008 at

This article is exactly true according to me. Because everyday when i come home after my college hours, i will sit infront of the system spending my time with the internet. This is really an ocean. Thank god i have never used it in a wrong way. Technology has got a lots of potential to drive you in both ways. Make the best use of it.
5 zeriva // Dec 15, 2008 at

Use of the Internet by seniors as a communication technology may lead to changes in older adult social relationships. This study used an online questionnaire to survey 222 Australians over 55 years of age on Internet use. Respondents primarily used the Internet for communication, seeking information, and commercial purposes. The results showed negative correlations between loneliness and well-being. Multiple regression analyses revealed that greater use of the Internet as a communication tool was associated with a lower level of social loneliness. In contrast, greater use of the Internet to find new people was associated with a higher level of emotional loneliness.
Internet use at home has a strong negative impact on time spent with friends and family, while Internet use at work decreases the time spent with colleagues.But do we have the choice?
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7 Affiliateguru // May 26, 2009 at

As per my experiance that Internet is not only the way of fun but it also giving oppertunity to create their on income and also business from online visiter’s. So Not in at the view point of lonielness but at the view point of professional way net is very importent, so that’s people’s sspending much time.

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