Comments on: Adult Children Of Alcoholics, ACOA: Symptoms and Signs http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/adult-children-of-alcoholics-acoa-symptoms-and-signs/ Overcoming Addiction, Growing In Addiction Recovery. Crucial Info On Getting Sober And Maintaining Sobriety. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:33:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: William Hughes http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/adult-children-of-alcoholics-acoa-symptoms-and-signs/comment-page-1/#comment-656460 William Hughes Mon, 26 Dec 2011 05:17:01 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/?p=644#comment-656460 Wow I am glad viewed this website. I am a child of an abusive & violent alcoholic. My father was a good man but the second he picked up a drink it was all over. It was amazing to me to read the symptoms and signs of adult children of alcohlics, and find out that I hit all 13 symptoms. I am currently in my second marriage which is also failing due to reasons I can't explain. My current wife & I are now seperated but she has not given up on me, I can say this because she calls me everyday. What I realized was that ACOA have diffulculty with intimate relationships. My wife has told me many times, I cannot connect with her emotionally. But I guess it is not my fault. I have spent most of my life not being able to connect with anyone on an emotional level. Next step for me is therpy to move on in my life. Wow I am glad viewed this website. I am a child of an abusive & violent alcoholic. My father was a good man but the second he picked up a drink it was all over. It was amazing to me to read the symptoms and signs of adult children of alcohlics, and find out that I hit all 13 symptoms. I am currently in my second marriage which is also failing due to reasons I can’t explain. My current wife & I are now seperated but she has not given up on me, I can say this because she calls me everyday. What I realized was that ACOA have diffulculty with intimate relationships. My wife has told me many times, I cannot connect with her emotionally. But I guess it is not my fault. I have spent most of my life not being able to connect with anyone on an emotional level. Next step for me is therpy to move on in my life.

]]> By: Debi Livingston Boushey@YourKeywords http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/adult-children-of-alcoholics-acoa-symptoms-and-signs/comment-page-1/#comment-458886 Debi Livingston Boushey@YourKeywords Sat, 09 Jul 2011 16:30:49 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/?p=644#comment-458886 I'm always amazed how these traits tag along with us through life. As a hypnotherapist, I have spent many years working on my personal issues related to being an ACOA. I thought I pretty much had things wrapped up nicely! A month ago I was blindsided by two board members of a non-profit organization I was involved with for 30 years. (I was the other board member). After resigning and walking away from the last 30 years of my life and all my work - I realized I had allowed myself to slip back into the old ACOA relationship patterns with these two women on a business level. Wow! Yes, we can move forward and live a great life, but there's always old emotional pain pictures from the past stored in our subconscious that can be released! Happy growth and unfoldment to everyone! Love & Blessings, Debi Livingston Boushey, BCH, CI I’m always amazed how these traits tag along with us through life. As a hypnotherapist, I have spent many years working on my personal issues related to being an ACOA. I thought I pretty much had things wrapped up nicely! A month ago I was blindsided by two board members of a non-profit organization I was involved with for 30 years. (I was the other board member). After resigning and walking away from the last 30 years of my life and all my work – I realized I had allowed myself to slip back into the old ACOA relationship patterns with these two women on a business level. Wow!

Yes, we can move forward and live a great life, but there’s always old emotional pain pictures from the past stored in our subconscious that can be released! Happy growth and unfoldment to everyone!

Love & Blessings,

Debi Livingston Boushey, BCH, CI

]]> By: Kathy Christian http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/adult-children-of-alcoholics-acoa-symptoms-and-signs/comment-page-1/#comment-390056 Kathy Christian Tue, 23 Nov 2010 08:37:12 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/?p=644#comment-390056 well, I fit 9 out of 13, the ACOA official website has 14 and the lying one is not on there. My mother was an addict, not an alcoholic. Keep in mind that according to Health and Human Services, 1 out of 4 children is being raised by a substance abusing parent. It is so common and yet, I always felt like I was the only one. well, I fit 9 out of 13, the ACOA official website has 14 and the lying one is not on there. My mother was an addict, not an alcoholic. Keep in mind that according to Health and Human Services, 1 out of 4 children is being raised by a substance abusing parent. It is so common and yet, I always felt like I was the only one.

]]> By: kevin http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/adult-children-of-alcoholics-acoa-symptoms-and-signs/comment-page-1/#comment-363558 kevin Wed, 14 Apr 2010 05:54:41 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/?p=644#comment-363558 I married an ACoA child abuser. 11 of 13 symptoms with her are on the money. She hid it so very well too. Not until 90 days into marriage did she attack a beautiful 4 year old with such violent words and tones that I was shocked and confused about how anyone could be that destructive to make a child cry all day long for 3 years straight, just to feel respected. I work with an ACoA who's very highly functioning and a great dad. So there's a huge disparity in the ACoA symptoms. In general, I would suggest RUN AWAY FAST is my healthiest advice. Their brains are difficult to sway when they're so very damaged like my ex is. I married an ACoA child abuser. 11 of 13 symptoms with her are on the money. She hid it so very well too. Not until 90 days into marriage did she attack a beautiful 4 year old with such violent words and tones that I was shocked and confused about how anyone could be that destructive to make a child cry all day long for 3 years straight, just to feel respected. I work with an ACoA who’s very highly functioning and a great dad. So there’s a huge disparity in the ACoA symptoms. In general, I would suggest RUN AWAY FAST is my healthiest advice. Their brains are difficult to sway when they’re so very damaged like my ex is.

]]> By: Chuck http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/adult-children-of-alcoholics-acoa-symptoms-and-signs/comment-page-1/#comment-350710 Chuck Sat, 17 Oct 2009 06:07:37 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/?p=644#comment-350710 It's almost amazing. I fit almost every one of these and I was not even raised by my alcoholic mother. It’s almost amazing. I fit almost every one of these and I was not even raised by my alcoholic mother.

]]> By: chelsea http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/adult-children-of-alcoholics-acoa-symptoms-and-signs/comment-page-1/#comment-316442 chelsea Sat, 14 Mar 2009 01:58:46 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/?p=644#comment-316442 I can personally acount to all of these things. It's amazing what alchohol can do to a single family... or friends. I can personally acount to all of these things. It’s amazing what alchohol can do to a single family… or friends.

]]> By: Matthew Jakes http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/adult-children-of-alcoholics-acoa-symptoms-and-signs/comment-page-1/#comment-298185 Matthew Jakes Sun, 30 Nov 2008 02:29:15 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/?p=644#comment-298185 I can personally vouch for the fact that these guidelines directly relate to my cousins.. I can personally vouch for the fact that these guidelines directly relate to my cousins..

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