Comments on: Are You Enabling Addiction In The One You Love? The Role of Enabler. +Podcast http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler-podcast/ Overcoming Addiction, Growing In Addiction Recovery. Crucial Info On Getting Sober And Maintaining Sobriety. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:33:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: sanju123 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler-podcast/comment-page-1/#comment-289768 sanju123 Sun, 05 Oct 2008 01:29:40 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/2007/08/07/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler/#comment-289768 It is a harsh reality but it is true. It happened with me also, addiction is like this only. My husband used to smoke, he used to like it when I used to light a drag for him. Slowly I starting inhaling, there started the problem, I became a regular smoker.I used to cross all limits to acquire cigarette packs. I thank my stars now I am over with smoking.But there is little addiction for alcohol also for that we both are culprits. We love to sit and chat over a drink or two.It all started for fun but now is a regular feature now, we both are worried about this addiction. It is a harsh reality but it is true. It happened with me also, addiction is like this only. My husband used to smoke, he used to like it when I used to light a drag for him. Slowly I starting inhaling, there started the problem, I became a regular smoker.I used to cross all limits to acquire cigarette packs. I thank my stars now I am over with smoking.But there is little addiction for alcohol also for that we both are culprits. We love to sit and chat over a drink or two.It all started for fun but now is a regular feature now, we both are worried about this addiction.

]]> By: tomandrew http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler-podcast/comment-page-1/#comment-289746 tomandrew Sat, 04 Oct 2008 07:42:08 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/2007/08/07/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler/#comment-289746 It is so dangerous when you are with her for 3 years. But you say that you were never aware of all such information. Very bad from your part. As said, only professional help could help you. You will get a sense of satisfaction when you approach them whether they do any good or not. But you will have the relaxation. It is so dangerous when you are with her for 3 years. But you say that you were never aware of all such information. Very bad from your part. As said, only professional help could help you. You will get a sense of satisfaction when you approach them whether they do any good or not. But you will have the relaxation.

]]> By: Bill Urell http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler-podcast/comment-page-1/#comment-289116 Bill Urell Tue, 30 Sep 2008 05:13:44 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/2007/08/07/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler/#comment-289116 I stronglt recomend getting some professional help for yourself. Sometimes you can be too close to the problem and over time become so involved it is difficult to visualize change. A professional opinion from outside the relationship can really help. Bill I stronglt recomend getting some professional help for yourself. Sometimes you can be too close to the problem and over time become so involved it is difficult to visualize change.

A professional opinion from outside the relationship can really help.

Bill

]]> By: I too have had somewhat the same expierence.I care about my girlfriend but yet the situation seems to be getting worse. I have been with her for three years . she has a husband and a child well three children and when i met her i was not aware of the sit http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler-podcast/comment-page-1/#comment-289094 I too have had somewhat the same expierence.I care about my girlfriend but yet the situation seems to be getting worse. I have been with her for three years . she has a husband and a child well three children and when i met her i was not aware of the sit Tue, 30 Sep 2008 04:07:11 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/2007/08/07/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler/#comment-289094 please give me advice I am lost please give me advice I am lost

]]> By: Xiflada http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler-podcast/comment-page-1/#comment-257286 Xiflada Wed, 30 Apr 2008 02:26:54 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/2007/08/07/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler/#comment-257286 I was in a similar situation, my significant other was an a alcoholic and I felt like his life would be over if I left him. In fact it almost did end when I finally got the courage to leave. I was very unhappy but for some reason I felt like I HAD to stay with him. But I needed to look out for me and I had to stop worrying about his life and start worrying about mine. He isn't doing too good but I don't blame myself anymore and now I can actually sleep at night. I was in a similar situation, my significant other was an a alcoholic and I felt like his life would be over if I left him. In fact it almost did end when I finally got the courage to leave. I was very unhappy but for some reason I felt like I HAD to stay with him. But I needed to look out for me and I had to stop worrying about his life and start worrying about mine. He isn’t doing too good but I don’t blame myself anymore and now I can actually sleep at night.

]]> By: xiflada http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler-podcast/comment-page-1/#comment-253064 xiflada Sat, 26 Apr 2008 18:21:37 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/2007/08/07/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler/#comment-253064 That mom in the Intervention show is crazy. Although I guess at one point or another I too played the enabler role with my dad. I would just call his work and tell him he was sick instead of telling him he was really out drinking at some bar. Then when I started working he would ask for cash and I couldn't say no even though I knew what he wanted it for. I stopped as I got older, now he knows if he wants to see me he needs to be booze free. But that back fires on me sometimes because I don't get to see him now. That mom in the Intervention show is crazy. Although I guess at one point or another I too played the enabler role with my dad. I would just call his work and tell him he was sick instead of telling him he was really out drinking at some bar. Then when I started working he would ask for cash and I couldn’t say no even though I knew what he wanted it for. I stopped as I got older, now he knows if he wants to see me he needs to be booze free. But that back fires on me sometimes because I don’t get to see him now.

]]> By: Sue http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler-podcast/comment-page-1/#comment-165124 Sue Sat, 09 Feb 2008 06:20:30 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/2007/08/07/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler/#comment-165124 Well in my case he left...and I wish he didn't! Now I am scared to death and I don't know what to do. He is not in a good place... He is disabled .. actually in a wheelchair .. and out of his mind.. I know for me it's the best thing so I may be able to resume some sort of life... but I just pray he lives and gets help. Well in my case he left…and I wish he didn’t! Now I am scared to death and I don’t know what to do. He is not in a good place… He is disabled .. actually in a wheelchair .. and out of his mind.. I know for me it’s the best thing so I may be able to resume some sort of life… but I just pray he lives and gets help.

]]> By: jc http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler-podcast/comment-page-1/#comment-152368 jc Fri, 11 Jan 2008 19:32:19 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/2007/08/07/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler/#comment-152368 are you kidding....I feel the same way and I am in the same situation. I have begged him to leave and he wont. I dont have a career but i do have some inheritance and life here is like a rollocoater with a dry drunk never knowing if sober means 2 days or 4 days or 7 days and the make you crazy talk that never is truthful or real but their crazy brain me me me............. Yes you are normal. How can we truly love someone that hurts us . I did read an enabling report. He probably will quit if you let him hit rock bottom by leaving and show him it is over and there is no more chances because us being there always when they come home no matter what.......is helping them and we know they are taking advantage. That is why we stop feeling,because they did except when it was convenient or for theirselves. are you kidding….I feel the same way and I am in the same situation. I have begged him to leave and he wont. I dont have a career but i do have some inheritance and life here is like a rollocoater with a dry drunk never knowing if sober means 2 days or 4 days or 7 days and the make you crazy
talk that never is truthful or real but their crazy brain me me me………….
Yes you are normal.
How can we truly love someone that hurts us . I did read an enabling report. He probably will quit if you let him hit rock bottom by leaving and show him it is over and there is no more chances because us being there always when they come home no matter what…….is helping them and we know they are taking advantage. That is why we stop feeling,because they did except when it was convenient or for theirselves.

]]> By: Lashawn Braswell http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler-podcast/comment-page-1/#comment-94916 Lashawn Braswell Tue, 09 Oct 2007 05:47:31 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/2007/08/07/are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love-the-role-of-enabler/#comment-94916 This article is me. Except Im beyond Angry. I dont even love the addict in my life any more. Yet I cant figure out why I dont want to have him removed from my home. Yes, I want him to go. However, I dont want to involve the police. This is insane. I guess I am still protecting him. I just want this all to go away quietly. 20 years of dealing with an individual that has stole, lied, cheated, physically, emotionally,Financially abused me. I am an intelligent human being. With a great job. Beautiful children. I have decided to just pack my things and move to another state and start over. I dont love him. I just feel sorry for him. Yet Im angry at times I want to hurt him. Are these normal feelings. This article is me. Except Im beyond Angry. I dont even love the addict in my life any more. Yet I cant figure out why I dont want to have him removed from my home. Yes, I want him to go. However, I dont want to involve the police. This is insane. I guess I am still protecting him. I just want this all to go away quietly. 20 years of dealing with an individual that has stole, lied, cheated, physically, emotionally,Financially abused me. I am an intelligent human being. With a great job. Beautiful children. I have decided to just pack my things and move to another state and start over. I dont love him. I just feel sorry for him. Yet Im angry at times I want to hurt him. Are these normal feelings.

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