Comments on: Relationship Boundaries: 4 Mistakes Made In Establishing Relationship Boundaries

By: Ruby

Ruby — Thu, 20 Jan 2011 13:00:21 +0000

I don’t think I have been able to establish health boundaries in my reaction has been to distant myself. But what other option can be taken when somebody has disrespect you? And if you feel that that person is not truly remorse what can it be done? How can you forgive somebody who is not genuinely repented?? And the trust would have gone.
How to establish the healthy boundaries before they are broken? And if they have been broken can they be re-established??

By: Ali G.

Ali G. — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 13:13:29 +0000

I heard a great quote once about boundaries and recovery: ‘an alcoholic without boundaries is a resentment machine’ … just thought sharing it might help someone out there. I surely do not have a great understanding of boundaries at 19 months sober, but I do try.

By: dreamr802

dreamr802 — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 14:29:25 +0000

I too think that having a relationship when you are in the recovery process has to be the hardest thing imaginable. Setting the boundaries will help the couple drastically but also if you set the boundaries from the beginning who knows, that relationship might be what will keep you from relapsing in the future.

By: cogbuddy

cogbuddy — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 15:10:59 +0000

Relationships are important to be maintained. They must have some boundaries to be checked. one must know how to behave to his parents, brothers, lover and so on. One must have a clear mindset about their levels of communication. Respect the relationship first of all. Do not have any premedited thoughts.

By: attagirl

attagirl — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 21:27:20 +0000

Very good article. I have a friend that I will be passing this on to. She will find this very helpful for a current situation she is going through. I personally think that each person should carefully read this article before getting into new relationships with people as it will help them to know what the boundaries of each relationship can be.

By: crimson

crimson — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 02:16:01 +0000

Oh this article cleared up my mind. I know now that we have to put some boundaries to ourselves to have our dignity intact. Listening and understanding our spouse will make our relationship work. Giving them respect is one way to earn respect from your partner.

By: illytodd

illytodd — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 15:56:29 +0000

Relationships when one is recovery can be very difficult if one isn’t ready for them. Some may use a relationship to replace what they are missing from being active in using. One has to be truly comfortable and stable in their recovery to be able to be successful with any type of relationship. It is important to create boundaries to keep yourself focused on staying healthy and active in your recovery.