http://addictionrecoverybasics.com Overcoming Addiction, Growing In Addiction Recovery. Crucial Info On Getting Sober And Maintaining Sobriety. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:33:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-417718 new communities in north idaho Sun, 06 Mar 2011 05:54:31 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-417718 Co-dependency is a vicious circle in which the person being enabled and the enabler need to extricate themselves. It is recommended by experts in the field, that co-dependent family members or loved ones remind themselves on a regular basis that they did not cause the problem, cannot control or fix the problem. They need to understand that the only thing they can do is offer assistance which may or may not be heeded. The codependent person needs to understand that the only person, who can help the substance abuser, is the substance abuser- he or she needs to go obtain the help that is available. Co-dependency is a vicious circle in which the person being enabled and the enabler need to extricate themselves. It is recommended by experts in the field, that co-dependent family members or loved ones remind themselves on a regular basis that they did not cause the problem, cannot control or fix the problem. They need to understand that the only thing they can do is offer assistance which may or may not be heeded. The codependent person needs to understand that the only person, who can help the substance abuser, is the substance abuser- he or she needs to go obtain the help that is available.

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-415192 new homes in spokane Mon, 28 Feb 2011 23:39:42 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-415192 The vicious cycle of enabling and addiction works something like this. The chemically dependent person is being shielded from the negative consequences of their use. Since these consequences are not hitting home, they can continue to use, or increase their use even more. This means the enabler gets drawn even deeper into the web by having to deal with ever increasing chaos. The vicious cycle of enabling and addiction works something like this. The chemically dependent person is being shielded from the negative consequences of their use. Since these consequences are not hitting home, they can continue to use, or increase their use even more. This means the enabler gets drawn even deeper into the web by having to deal with ever increasing chaos.

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-414893 new homes in spokane Mon, 28 Feb 2011 03:14:54 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-414893 The enabler must desist being the rescuer for the addict and instead be the rescuer for the family. By detaching themselves, enablers force the addict to face their addiction head on. While this may be difficult and incredibly painful for the family, forcing the addict to rely on him or herself is the first step in getting them to realize the strength of their addiction. Once they must face the consequences of their addictive behavior, they may begin to see themselves in a new light and be ready to seek help to end their addiction. Once the addict has reached this critical step, the family can come in with solutions such as drug treatment plans. The family can once again become a support structure for the addict, but this time in a healthy way that does not enable the addictive behavior, but seeks to reform it. The enabler must desist being the rescuer for the addict and instead be the rescuer for the family. By detaching themselves, enablers force the addict to face their addiction head on. While this may be difficult and incredibly painful for the family, forcing the addict to rely on him or herself is the first step in getting them to realize the strength of their addiction. Once they must face the consequences of their addictive behavior, they may begin to see themselves in a new light and be ready to seek help to end their addiction. Once the addict has reached this critical step, the family can come in with solutions such as drug treatment plans. The family can once again become a support structure for the addict, but this time in a healthy way that does not enable the addictive behavior, but seeks to reform it.

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-411273 Sean Parker@grommit kit Thu, 17 Feb 2011 12:03:16 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-411273 I have got only one thing to say to all enablers, try visualizing the days when your loved ones can be addiction free. Wouldn’t you want to work in that direction rather than aiding them to get their daily dose of poison? The effects of withdrawal symptoms are temporary, but when the addiction is gone away, the happiness is endless. I have got only one thing to say to all enablers, try visualizing the days when your loved ones can be addiction free. Wouldn’t you want to work in that direction rather than aiding them to get their daily dose of poison? The effects of withdrawal symptoms are temporary, but when the addiction is gone away, the happiness is endless.

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-411070 Joey@jewelry buyers long island Wed, 16 Feb 2011 11:50:22 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-411070 I guess emotions should be kept away from the addict if you want any chance of redeeming them. You never know they might be playing on that weaker emotional side of yours. This will only propel them to continue their merry way it will be difficult for them to quit. I guess emotions should be kept away from the addict if you want any chance of redeeming them. You never know they might be playing on that weaker emotional side of yours. This will only propel them to continue their merry way it will be difficult for them to quit.

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-409236 Jenny Fri, 11 Feb 2011 02:52:14 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-409236 The problem is that helping an addict is not the same as helping a family member who was laid off from their job or injured in a car accident. In some cases, addiction goes on for longer than it should because family or friends with good intentions enable the addict, cushioning the negative consequences of their poor decisions. Sometimes those in relationships with addicts are psychologically attached to the feeling of being needed by the addict, and losing that relationship would be devastating for their own sense of identity and self-worth. If you know an addict, you should evaluate your interactions with them to make sure that you are helping the addict (which might mean NOT helping them!) and not the addiction. The problem is that helping an addict is not the same as helping a family member who was laid off from their job or injured in a car accident. In some cases, addiction goes on for longer than it should because family or friends with good intentions enable the addict, cushioning the negative consequences of their poor decisions. Sometimes those in relationships with addicts are psychologically attached to the feeling of being needed by the addict, and losing that relationship would be devastating for their own sense of identity and self-worth. If you know an addict, you should evaluate your interactions with them to make sure that you are helping the addict (which might mean NOT helping them!) and not the addiction.

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-401922 Girls Red Patent Shoes Wed, 19 Jan 2011 05:03:00 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-401922 I can’t agree with most of the reviewers here that enablers actually make the situation worse. I can’t accept that school of thought. But what I feel is The enabler has a diverse role in alcoholism. Sometimes they are the fixers. They are the rescuers. They are the reliable ones too. They are the one who forgives and the saddest person ever only because they love the alcoholic. I can’t agree with most of the reviewers here that enablers actually make the situation worse. I can’t accept that school of thought. But what I feel is The enabler has a diverse role in alcoholism. Sometimes they are the fixers. They are the rescuers. They are the reliable ones too. They are the one who forgives and the saddest person ever only because they love the alcoholic.

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-400522 EB Organic Salon Thu, 13 Jan 2011 07:22:44 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-400522 It takes love and understanding and that is only available to each of us when we have made profound changes within our own lives. The average person who is working toward getting healthier will actually need some help from time to time. That kind of help should come in the form of positive attitudes and being supportive. Thank you. It takes love and understanding and that is only available to each of us when we have made profound changes within our own lives. The average person who is working toward getting healthier will actually need some help from time to time. That kind of help should come in the form of positive attitudes and being supportive. Thank you.

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-400401 new houses in spokane Wed, 12 Jan 2011 07:11:17 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-400401 Enforce limits and boundaries with decisive action–action that you had previously decided on in a rational moment of clarity and probably also communicated to the alcoholic. In the heat of the moment, do not react. Do not pour fuel on the fire. Simply follow through with the actions that you decided on (such as, “if you come home drunk again, I’m going to go stay over at a friend’s house for the night,” or whatever the case may be). Enforce limits and boundaries with decisive action–action that you had previously decided on in a rational moment of clarity and probably also communicated to the alcoholic. In the heat of the moment, do not react. Do not pour fuel on the fire. Simply follow through with the actions that you decided on (such as, “if you come home drunk again, I’m going to go stay over at a friend’s house for the night,” or whatever the case may be).

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-399412 new homes Fri, 07 Jan 2011 07:48:22 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-399412 Detachment is the idea that the disease of alcoholism is separate from the alcoholic themselves. It’s the idea that we can love a person but hate their disease. When we practice detachment, we can view an alcoholic’s outrageous behavior as being part of their disease without taking it so personally. We can still love them even though they are sick and their behavior is unacceptable at times. Detachment is not easy, and you might not do it perfectly at all times. But it’s important to understand the concept and to practice it as best you can. Even if it seems like you are distancing yourself from the alcoholic, it is still the healthiest behavior you can choose. You are choosing to distance yourself from their disease and the emotional turmoil that it creates. Detachment is the idea that the disease of alcoholism is separate from the alcoholic themselves. It’s the idea that we can love a person but hate their disease. When we practice detachment, we can view an alcoholic’s outrageous behavior as being part of their disease without taking it so personally. We can still love them even though they are sick and their behavior is unacceptable at times. Detachment is not easy, and you might not do it perfectly at all times. But it’s important to understand the concept and to practice it as best you can. Even if it seems like you are distancing yourself from the alcoholic, it is still the healthiest behavior you can choose. You are choosing to distance yourself from their disease and the emotional turmoil that it creates.

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-398901 Jenny@ Katie Beyer Photography Tue, 04 Jan 2011 02:58:20 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-398901 There will be a bias of enabling if the one who love will deal with. It takes discipline and perseverance to both side to fight addiction. It is also a painstaking process that both party must partake. There will be a bias of enabling if the one who love will deal with. It takes discipline and perseverance to both side to fight addiction. It is also a painstaking process that both party must partake.

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-394918 new communities in spokane Thu, 16 Dec 2010 11:29:50 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-394918 By helping support them, we are enabling them to use whatever money they get from other sources (often, the Government) to buy their drug. The only way we can help them while they're using is to let them fall flat on their faces. Let them feel every bit of the pain and wretchedness their choices have brought them to. The more pain they feel, the more willing they will be to do what it takes to get clean. If we love them, we won't believe them, we will set firm boundaries and we won't help them as long as they're abusing a substance. True love is expressed by doing and saying, not what your loved ones want, but what they need...even if it means losing their love. By helping support them, we are enabling them to use whatever money they get from other sources (often, the Government) to buy their drug. The only way we can help them while they’re using is to let them fall flat on their faces. Let them feel every bit of the pain and wretchedness their choices have brought them to. The more pain they feel, the more willing they will be to do what it takes to get clean. If we love them, we won’t believe them, we will set firm boundaries and we won’t help them as long as they’re abusing a substance. True love is expressed by doing and saying, not what your loved ones want, but what they need…even if it means losing their love.

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-394754 everett, wa wedding photographer Wed, 15 Dec 2010 15:20:55 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-394754 It’s the best thing you’ve ever done for him, if you both really love him. Tell him where to go, detox at a drug detox facility. It takes love and understanding and that is only available to each of us when we have made profound changes within our own lives. So yes, the only life you can change is your own. It’s the best thing you’ve ever done for him, if you both really love him. Tell him where to go, detox at a drug detox facility. It takes love and understanding and that is only available to each of us when we have made profound changes within our own lives. So yes, the only life you can change is your own.

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-393595 clovis portrait photographers Fri, 10 Dec 2010 03:14:47 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-393595 It’s better to leave the situation to the hands of the professional because if you are with your love one, tendency is there will be enabling addition. The average person who is working toward getting healthier will actually need some help from time to time. It’s better to leave the situation to the hands of the professional because if you are with your love one, tendency is there will be enabling addition. The average person who is working toward getting healthier will actually need some help from time to time.

]]> http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/comment-page-1/#comment-390845 sf nightlife Sun, 28 Nov 2010 06:10:17 +0000 http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/the-role-of-enabler-are-you-enabling-addiction-in-the-one-you-love/#comment-390845 I have been playing the part of an enabler to one of my family member, who for along time has been an addict but its an overwhelming task and calls for love, kindness and patience, sometimes they are not cooperative, violent but the way through ave been able to bring him back to the track. how I love to see this come. Thank you for sharing helpful thoughts all over. I have been playing the part of an enabler to one of my family member, who for along time has been an addict but its an overwhelming task and calls for love, kindness and patience,
sometimes they are not cooperative, violent but the way through ave been able to bring him back to the track.
how I love to see this come. Thank you for sharing helpful thoughts all over.

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