Comments on: What Is A Dry Drunk?

By: nancy

nancy — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 17:28:58 +0000

I have been dealing with this B.S. for almost 25 years now. It is like a roller coaster ride, and I have felt trapped on it with 3 children by this man. Now, at 56, I wonder if I should just throw in the towel, and leave him to be like he is, alone. It is just sad for the kids, cause he is not bad with them, and shows them a lot of love. I have left one time for 5 months, and then we got back together. We have very little materialistically, and we have moved around like crazy, which I think is what’s termed “doing the geographical”. Anyway, I have more regrets than anything else, and just want to live in harmony for however long I have left. I have told him many times about this “Dry drunk syndrome”, and he doesn’t want to hear it, he thinks it’s all nonsense!

By: ERNEST

ERNEST — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 22:55:46 +0000

IVE BEEN 3 YRS AND 7 MONTHS CLEAN WITHOUT GOING TO BUT ABOUT 5 MEETINGS, AND MY THERAPIST SEEMS TO THIN G I,M GOING THROUGH THE DRY DRUNK SYMPTOMS. THIS IS WHY I,M READING THIS BULLSHIT.. MY RESPONSE IS THAT IF I WANTED TO DRINK BY NOW, I WOULDVE DONE IT. I DONT NEED A.A OR N.A , IF IM GONNA DO IT IM GONNA DO IT

By: Summer

Summer — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 20:07:33 +0000

I can so relate to Ann. I am engaged to a recover alcoholic of 3 years. We’ve had a wonderful relationship for almost 1 year. Past our 1 year anniversary, things really took a wrong turn. We began to fight and ended up not talking to each other for over a week. He left for a few days and said he had to do some thinking. Before he came back, he texted me saying how he didn’t want to loose me and without me he has no heart, no soul, nor reason to go forward in life. I suspected he cheated on me. When he got back, he didn’t say what I thought he would say. Instead, he blamed me for the arguments, how terrible of a person I was and it was never his fault. I was so confused. He asked me to leave for a few days so I did. Then he texted me and said he missed me. I came back and again he was stone cold. I saw one of his employee whom he said he was with when he was away. I asked him if my fiancé was with him and he said no and then yes. Afterwards, my fiancé called and screamed at me for being so pathetic. I realize recovering is an extremely difficult process. I have tried to understand his mentality, and even considered seeing a therapist. Then I came across what’s called “dry drunk”, which I have never even heard of. It all makes sense to me. I’m still trying to figure out if there can be hope for any of this? I hope and pray for all this to turn around but I think I know what the answer o this might be.

By: jay

jay — Sun, 22 May 2011 21:24:55 +0000

Thank you John for your opened-minded post about faithful meeting makers thinking AA is the only way. To each his own, and what works for one person may not work for the other. Different people choose different paths that lead to success in all areas of life.

By: lynn higginbotham

lynn higginbotham — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 05:34:13 +0000

I have a friend who never drinks ,is controlling of her husband and children to the extreme [30-40+ calls daily] , verbally abusive, and everything is a crisis! Her father and at least two brothers are active alcoholics , her childhood was physically stable but of course emotionally chaotic divided between rages and silence with notes in the kitchen to communicate. She also has some hormone issues . Her husband and their church couples group are planning a possible intervention and at least a confrontation … What is her classification? How can I help? I’ve known her like a sister since we were very young hence my fly s perspective…

By: Dr William Crandall

Dr William Crandall — Sun, 13 Feb 2011 18:03:45 +0000

I am the Director of New Horizon Living Centers. We operate Sober Houses, Transitional Housing and Counseling Centers for people with Drug and Alcohol addictions. Dry Drunk Syndrome is a recurring issue that must be addressed when people come out of treatment. It is important for Treatment centers to educate individuals to be cognizant of this Syndrome to continue effectively in their recovery.
Our Web-site is: newhorizonlivingcenters.com or nhlcct.com

By: Steve

Steve — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 23:14:21 +0000

I think there needs to be some editing on this post, sole is a fish and “soul” is the concept of individual being. I was trying to analyze my dad’s recent behavior (sober for 30+ years) and I ended up focusing on the grammatical and spelling mistakes from item #1 down. I also wonder if the types of behavior described in the post are what lead to addiction in the first place. At times I can’t tell if you are describing a drunk or a baptist.

By: Warburton's INC.

Warburton's INC. — Fri, 31 Dec 2010 22:31:35 +0000

How very interesting. I hate seeing my friends in this stage, it’s terrible. I’ve been dry for a while, but not a dry drunk.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 07:43:37 +0000

There is so much pain on this site. It is all so sad. I too find myself living with a dry drunk. Actually, two. One is my son. My son is 34 years old with brain damage which puts him about the mentality of a 17 year old. Still, he fits all the behaviors listed on this site. I am so tired of doing so much for him and giving him all I can. He is verbally abusive and I worry he will become physically abusive. The problem is he has cancer and not doing very well. After three months of chemo he still has the cancer. then there is my husband of nine years. My first husband had a severe low self-esteem problem. My second was a herion addict and drunk. This one hardly ever drinks so I thought it would be ok. My sister suggested I look up what a dry drunk is. He is very gradiose, impulsive, judgem,ental and very self-centered. About every three-four weeks he explodes about nothing. He makes demands of me and I am not the kind of person who likes that. He is always trying to find fault with anything my son does. I am a mental wreck. I’m not sure how to hang on much longer. I have a strong urge to run away. I did it with the last two husbands. I am older now. I have to make my living situation better myself. The problem is I don’t know how to do that with them still in my life.

By: AA is the only way

AA is the only way — Sun, 05 Dec 2010 08:08:33 +0000

All you people that call AA a cult have no idea what you’re talking about. Usually it’s people that didn’t have the guts to really try or learn about AA and caing it a cult is the easiest way to write it off and make yourself feel better about your laziness and ingnorance. Screw you all!!!!

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By: weleetka1

weleetka1 — Thu, 25 Nov 2010 19:32:05 +0000

You would be surprised to see how close narcissism and “dry drunk” syndrome are to each other. Both definitely exhibit or mimic identical behaviors. This is powerful information to know about the two aforemntioned conditions as you try and navigate both work and personal relationships. Good luck to all of us.

By: intelligent2

intelligent2 — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 09:31:21 +0000

Catherine, I read your post about the bad relationship and boy, do I have some storys for you! (my experience, strength and hope).

By: intelligent2

intelligent2 — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 09:01:46 +0000

For me to not be in a ‘dry drunk’, I had to realize that I am not god, then be slightly WILLING to believe that MAYBE there WAS a power out there greater than myself. Then I just watched and paid attention and ‘the light’ was able to shine in and the rest is history. For me, it’s called ‘everlasting life’. I truly do not know what happened, but I did explain what I DO know.

By: Warburton's, INC

Warburton's, INC — Mon, 27 Sep 2010 22:48:18 +0000

It is sad to see how many people refuse to see how much their behavior hurts their families. Why wouldn’t you quit all the way, both physically and mentally? It boggles my mind.