What Part Of No; Don’t You Understand? 4 Idiot Proof Ways To Assertively Say No
by Bill Urell on
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- Simply say “no” or “I don’t want to do that.”
- Repeat your statement calmly until the other party accepts it.
- If someone asks for a reason, give a reason only if you feel you have information that the other party obviously needs or could benefit from.
- Do not give a reason if you think the information is unlikely to help the other party or will simply allow them to present a number of counter-arguments.
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For some people this is just a skill that needs to be learned. After learning, practice it over and over again until you begin to feel comfortable saying, “No”. Once you learn to say, “no”, you’ll find that it is one of the most liberating things that you can say.
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If you’re ever in a situation when none of these work, the best thing you could do is just walk away. Never get into a confrontation, as it might transform into a fight, and you don’t want that to happen.
Being a lady, such as me, it’s even harder than usual to really be able to enjoy going out without having to say no or getting your evening spoiled. Some people just don’t know when to stop, no matter how hard you say no to them, and I’ve had more evening ruined like that.
Those 4 ways are easier said than done…I think the best one is just to keep repeating no…if they are a real friend they will just stop and accept it. This is when you have the chance to see who your real friends are. Because real friends aren’t going to sit there and keep bugging you, they will respect you and leave you be. But if you have someone who is constantly asking the same thing and not taking no for an answer, it is your responsibility to remove yourself from that situation.
I know that millions have done it, but I have never gotten why people want to pressure others into doing things. To me it just seems like they are cowards that need someone to do it with them. This is great advice actually. Just say NO and stick to your grounds.